- You’ve been wanting to write a book for many years, but never find the time to start?
- You’ve been wanting to take that trip for the last 5 years, but everything and everyone gets in the way?
- You want to make a career change, but you postpone your decision with excuses (when the kids will be grown, when my to do list is done, when I can see clearly, when I am less afraid of change and the list goes on…)
In the end, you procrastinate and spend your day dealing with all the daily things to do and avoid that whole aspect of your life. Guilt settles in and time becomes your #1 enemy. Don’t panic! Don’t complain ! Solutions are on the horizon. I’ve identified 6 Golden Rules to get things done without complaining. Those rules have changed my own life and have allowed me to make progress and take daily action on things that really matter to me without slacking on my other responsibilities.
1. Deliberately Choose to Slow Down Time
Have you sometimes used these comments during a conversation: “Where did the time go?” or “The older I get, the faster time goes”…? Start by banishing these seemingly harmless remarks from your conversations. “Your words create your reality”, if you declare that time goes too fast, it is very likely that you won’t see time go by. Starting today, refrain from complaining about time, even better slow down and become more conscious about the time that you DO have. Observe how your day unfolds, take a break every two hours for instance, go take a walk, take a few deep breaths by an open window or choose any other resourceful activity. Slow down time just for an instant and then….
2. Anchor Yourself in the Present
I heard once that the past creates depression and the future anxiety. it’s an exaggeration, but it forces us to focus on the present which is the only tangible reality in our life. Easier said than done. It comes with practice, I still find myself going back and forth in my mind in between the past and the future, what matters is to identify it and press “pause”. If my brain is overheating with a thousand thoughts a second, I take a deep breath and I remind myself that only the present moment exist.
3. Set Up Personal 21 Day Challenges
Here’s an exercise I use during my Wake Up seminars which I lead several times a year. I ask the participants to make a list of their most cherished desires for the upcoming year. During this exercise I can witness rays of sunlight illuminating their faces as if liberated from their conscious or unconscious limitations. Then I invite them to play with the idea of starting a challenge! A 21 days challenge to create the reality that they really want ! For example: You want to write a book! Start a challenge to write every day, if only for 15 minutes for the next 21 days. Who says you have to write 6 hours a day to become an author? The habit will be anchored in you and the book will take shape. Be grateful for all the steps you took. Step by step on the stairway of time, you aim towards the realization of your dreams! Consistency and repetition of all your little efforts towards your GREAT project will make ALL the difference.
4. Sort Out Your Agenda
Yes, like the old adage goes, to choose is to let go . Take a look at Monday and then all the days coming up in your busy week. Can schedule some time for yourself? No, really? You are in resistance. I proceed this way regularly revising my agenda in function of the things I want to put at the heart of my life. I seek to simplify my commitments, to devote to less things but to devote myself fully to create more value for me and others. Dare to say NO more often rather than overloading yourself out of a strong sense of obligation because you think that you “have to say yes” or fear to not be a “good” person if you don’t?
5. Create the Space for Projects that Matter to Your Heart
I’ve personally learned not to let myself get invaded by useless and valueless activities and to block out a real space in my agenda to work on my big ideas. For example, when I plan a new seminar, I decide to devote myself one evening a week to prepare it in a café with an inspiring atmosphere. The same when I was writing my book “J’arrête de râler” (I Quit Complaining!), I chose to spend the first hours of my day writing. I started getting up at 5:45 AM (which was unheard of for me to wake up before 7 AM, so I had to alter my pre-conceptions) to write an hour before the kids got up. I’ve recently started to create a new space in my agenda. Every 4th Friday of the month have become “reflections days”. I spend the day OFF line in an inspiring place (the beach or the tearoom of a luxury hotel for instance) with a pad and my coloring pencils. What a delight to be able to get away from the daily grind and to create space to listen to what wants to emerge and reveal itself through me!
6. Put Discipline at the Heart of Your Daily Life
STOP multitasking! We, women are particularly good at it. Dare do one task fully after another more effectively. If you want results, there are no secrets. Start a project and finish it before starting another to avoid dispersion. I block out some time each day when I am not allowed to check my never-ending emails or allowing social media to entice me (POMODORO is a great tool to discipline and keeps me focused). With a little discipline, you will gain in energy, in time and confidence in yourself as you witness the results of your new resolutions taking shape.
I hope that these few basic steps will help you improve your relationship with time and reduce your frustration throughout your day. Time well used can help us master our day with the choices we make, become accountable for each passing hour and see our dreams become a reality in a year, three years, five years from now… without complaining!
Love & Respect,