Wishes out of the ordinary!

2018 is here, and for this year, I want to send you:

Wishes out of the ordinary!

I don’t want to wish you Courage, I want you to feel your intuition and have the audacity to believe that what it tells you is of great value. May it guide you and open the doors of your destiny.

I don’t want to wish you Health, I want to wish you pleasure and an orgasmic relationship with your life. So much so that if you were to die tomorrow, you will know that you have lived!

I don’t want to simply wish you Love,  I want to wish you intimate conversations filled with emotion and truth, conversations that bring you closer to each other. Powerful moments during which you feel that everything is happening NOW, moments that make you realize how open, vulnerable and powerful your heart is.

I don’t want to merely wish you Joy, I want to wish you challenges and discomfort because I know that it is on the other side of this discomfort that you will find your fulfillment and self-realization.
I wish you an uncomfortable but vibrant, unstable but powerful, uncertain but aligned 2018!!

This year is in YOUR hands. I look forward to discovering what you intend to do with it.

I would be honored to read your wishes and projects in the comments section below.

Love and Respect,
Christine Lewicki

©2018

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7 tips for a complaint free holiday season!

How do you feel at this time of the year?

Between Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, the New Year… there is often a feeling of stress that sets in.

7 tips for a complaint free holiday season!

 

Celebrating the holidays is very important to me and sometimes, I go into overdrive! So, in order to fully enjoy the precious moments of this time of the year, I adopted a new “mantra”:

“Focus on what is really important”

You may say, “That’s fine, but how do you actually do it”?

Here are seven personal tips that I would like to share with you:

  • If I’m invited to several parties on the same day, I decide to choose one (I know, that’s hard!!!) and courteously decline the others. This way I can be fully available to the people around me and spend quality time with them without feeling stressed thinking I have to be somewhere else soon.
  • If my children are prone to coming up with a three-page gift list, I discourage this by taking away the advertising catalogs and limit access to television ads that encourage over-consumption and create needs or cravings that are not real. It’s impressive to see how different my children’s desires are when they are not influenced by marketing messages. I invite them to tell me the 3 or 4 things that would make them happiest.
  • When I buy gifts, as much as possible, I choose to support the merchants and artisans of my neighborhood.
    I make it a point to not only offer material gifts but also experiences! A sewing class, a horse riding lesson, a family outing, or simply a face-to-face meeting for a hot chocolate in the neighborhood’s coffee shop. That also makes for fewer gifts to wrap up and less waste!
  • Similarly, instead of giving ourselves expensive gifts, my husband and I have decided to save for a weekend, a retreat, a trip, and fund our “Quarterly Getaway”. We choose an experience that will enrich our relationship. This kind of gift brings us so much more than any object could, as sophisticated as it might be!
  • This season for me is a special time to experience the pleasures of receiving and giving. With this in mind, each year we bring toys and clothes that my children no longer use, to a charity; this ritual has become a way of creating space before filling it, and also to be aware of all the things we can accumulate which we do not really need! We share our clothes or toys with families in need, as well as taking the time to buy a new gift or to help serve holiday meals to those without resources.
  • For the preparation of the festive meals, I ask each guest to come with a choice of starter or dessert. Everyone contributes to the meal and this reinforces the sharing and caring of the moment. I can then take pleasure in the preparation of the main course and in welcoming my guests (decorations, candles, drinks …) without feeling stressed. It also helps reduce anxiety about cost and allows me to provide a meal with better quality ingredients for my guests.
  • Finally, first and foremost, I take time for ME! I make it a point of honor not to miss my dance or yoga class and to continue my practice of meditation.

And you? What are your “anti-stress tips” during the holidays?

I would be delighted to read them in the comment section of this blog!

©2017

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4 powerful summer tips for entrepreneurs!

Summer is here, the kids have put away their backpacks, the BBQ grill is ready and the Rosé is on ice! We are looking forward to a calmer rhythm and beautiful summer evenings with family and friends. Summer is a joy!

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And yet, even though I really want to slow down and enjoy this season, I don’t want to have to pay for it in September. We spend so much energy working on our business growth and development all year, it would be a shame to entirely lose that momentum in the summer and have to double up our efforts in the fall to relaunch it.

What if summer became an ally to our success? What if summer was not only a source of rest and relaxation, but also a source of renewed power?

Here are my 4 tips to put summer at the service of your projects:

  • Dare to create the space for your creativity.  During the summer we have the luxury of more time, even if we can’t take a vacation, the days are longer and our body rythm slows down. We can ease up on our to do lists and our emails and finally enjoy exploring our creativity. Do you dream of writing? We are entering a season particularly well suited  to advance on a book project or to take care of a blog.  Step by step, have the gentle discipline to put your great ideas on paper.
  •  Create your vision for the upcoming months.  As we are taking some distance from the daily spiral of activities, summer is a perfect time to reevaluate our vision for the fall. You can use techniques like Mind-mapping and answer the following questions:
  1. What 3 projects are closest to my heart in the next 6 months?
  2. What means do I have to devote to these projects? (time, competencies, money …)
  3. How much quality time do I want to put at the heart of my life to take care of myself? ( yoga, singing, dancing, nature walks, meditation…)
  4. Do I feel like enrolling in a seminar or training? (which one and how much does it cost…)
  5. How can I contribute more value to others? (my colleagues, teams, clients…)
  6. What are the 3 things that I want to implement in September to create the biggest impact in my life?
  • Reconnect with the wisdom of your body and your soul.  With the weight of stress and responsibility, we tend to surrender control of our lives to our brain. Our brain manages problems, finds solutions… we spend a great deal of our year reasoning, thinking, analyzing and coming up with solutions. Our brain is the boss and our future depends on its ability to analyze situations and make the right decisions. This summer, I’d like to invite you to quiet your brain and use another form of intelligence, the intelligence of your body and soul. What if your heart was seeking to tell you something? Are you ready to hear and listen? To do so, you need to disconnect from your brain a bit, create space and reconnect with your intuitive self. Danse, mediate, move, explore the possibilities of your body. Remove the blockages which prevent brilliance to emerge and dare to see the invisible, to hear the inaudible.
  • Celebrate. Summer is also the time to celebrate. To celebrate what we have accomplished over the year and take the time to rejoice in the beautiful things that life has brought us and which may have gone unnoticed. Take the time to SAY thank you to significant others in your life, your spouse, family, friends, colleagues… life in general! We have such an innate ability to express our complaints and dissatisfaction, focusing on what others have done poorly or not done for us… let’s make an effort to whine ourselves from all negativity and let’s have the guts to strengthen our celebration muscle! 

And if you want to use this special time of the year to establish a new powerful way of functioning in your life, you can join the 21 Day Challenge to Quit  Complaining and Bitching at any time, it is free!

©2017

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10 questions to start the year beautifully!

With a new year comes a new energy, the opportunity to take stock of the past year and put things in perspective for the year to come, to review our goals, to remove what does not make our heart sing, to keep only what is important, to get rid of interference.

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And what if in 2017 our watchword was “SIMPLIFY”, purging our lives of what we no longer want and keeping only what serves us?

Here are a few questions to help you on this path:

  1. What are the beautiful things that 2016 brought you?
  2. What do you want to CELEBRATE? What were your disappointments and difficulties, and how did they help you grow?
  3. Draw a traffic light on a white page.  – Next to the GREEN circle, write down: What do I want to do MORE? (What you have already done and want to continue pursuing in 2017?) – Next to the ORANGE circle, write: What do I want to learn to regulate? (What do I want to be vigilant about?) – Next to the RED circle, write: What do I want to stop because it does not serve me (or serves me badly)?
  4. What are the roles you play in your life? Give yourself brilliant titles for each one of these roles. Look at the different areas of your life: family, work, health, love, finances, spirituality, personal development, recreation. For each of these areas, give yourself several titles. For example, “the woman of his dreams” instead of the wife, or “genius of multi-tasking and tenderness” instead of mom, or “inspirational and inspiring messenger” instead of speaker, “brilliant CEO, stunning expert, logistics and transport genius, starred chef, cheerleader, adventurer, benevolent ambassador”… It’s up to you to play now!
  5. What are your goals for each of these roles? Write only goals that make your heart sing. Make sure they are specific and measurable and that when you read them you feel an impetus to move forward.
  6. What is THE THING that must happen in 2017? Be careful to differentiate between things that will happen no matter what and the things for which you have to free yourself of blocks but that it’s time to do this year. You are ripe, you are ready!
  7. UNDERSTANDING: In 2017, what do you want to unlearn? Identify limiting beliefs that create obstacles in your path. Unlearn these things that do not serve you and slow down, even prevent, your progress and fulfillment!
  8. RECOGNIZING: You will always have many unknowns and doubts in your life and this can disrupt you, slow you down, confuse you… but at any time you can reconnect with your truth. Among all your confusion, what do you know? What is clear? Remember your “why”. Why do you feel called to move in that direction? What makes you vibrate?
  9. DO: What are you going to do in 2017 starting next week? Once you have reconnected with your truth, then it is time to dare to act in accordance with this new reality. Do not postpone until later. Start now (even an inch a day) and you will see that you will already have made strides by the end of January
  10. What support do you need to achieve your goals? Education, resources, coaching, family, friends…? Feel free to use the full range of support options available to you!

I hope these questions will help you to move forward brilliantly, your heart swollen with audacity, to start the year beautifully! If this article has helped you, do not hesitate to share it with your loved ones and your friends.

©2017

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

Is the Universe a friendly place?

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I personally found that putting celebration on the forefront of my life as I was releasing my complaints was perfect! I believe that, in life, if we want to get rid of one habit we have to replace it with another one that works better for us. Our conscious mind doesn’t like emptiness, and if we just try to get rid of the complaints, it will do everything in its power to fill the void. That being said, why not replace our complaints with thank you’s?!

To help us get into the habit of turning on our celebration radar, I chose to create a family ritual. Every night, around the dinner table, we take some time to celebrate the good things that happened during the day. We have developed such a talent at complaining every time things or people are not meeting our expectations that we don’t even stop to acknowledge it (or them) when they do. This celebration routine is a discipline to create space for gratitude.

Kids want to celebrate recess, and the joy of having good friends to rely on, while us, the parents, want to celebrate a productive appointment or the joy of making progress in a project, the joke a colleague told us, the new contract we signed or the satisfaction of contributing with our work.

It’s a ritual we have established for a few months now, even if everyone is not forced to participate (it can seem strange to celebrate, especially at first!). Finally, I noticed that now everybody takes some pleasure in it, even my husband. Our youngest one, at 4 years old, loves this ritual and, if we happen to forget it, she certainly reminds us by saying : “Mommy, mommy, I have something to celebrate!”

To quit complaining and to start celebrating is to choose to believe that life is beautiful and is there for us ( and not against us).  Einstein said one day , that the most important question to ask ourselves was: “Is the Universe a friendly place?” Yes, life is full of problems, atrocities and wars, and often times the media turns on our radar and shows us life’s dangers and horrors. Yet, the wise of all times (Buddha, Gandhi, Mother Teresa…) share messages of hope, peace and beauty. If I had to choose between the media and the wise, I would choose the wise because their message focuses on the good things and invite me to not go against life, but to embrace it. They invite me to not judge the past that I cannot change, but to do my best to contribute to the future. They give me hope, and I want to believe them. I think that their message vehicles peace, forgiveness and goodness.

I heard that optimists are not utopians. They are the one who will change the world because they think it’s possible and I really like this idea. We have the cultivate our perception of the world and see all it’s possibilities and goodness so that we can feel inspired to be entrepreneurs of our life.

So, with this challenge, I would like to invite you to talk, discuss and share everything you have to celebrate since you got up this morning. This challenge is not about “adding” positive thoughts in your conversations, but rather to fill the void left by eliminating your complaints by celebrating.

  • Fill the void: eliminate your complaints, now replace them with thank you’s!
  • Replace conversations filled with complaints with conversations about all the things that make life beautiful, your hopes, your projects,  your possibilities, your desire to enjoy it all.
  • Take the time to tell others (family members, colleagues, friends…) what you appreciate about them.
  • Establish the celebration ritual within your household.
  • At work, start your meetings by taking 5 to 10 minutes to talk about what works, take the time to thank the participants for being there, highlight the contribution of everyone on current projects…you will all be more motivated to move forward or make some progress on projects needing all your attention.

Does this speak to you? Please share here!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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ARE WE SCARED OF BEING “DIFFERENT” BY BEING HAPPY?

Have you ever noticed that often times we complain to relate with others and talk  about our misfortunes? We build friendships on our common misery; we come together around our “stories”. This rings even more true at work or in public places. Complaining is also something we use all day long to break the uncomfortable silence when surrounded by people we don’t know very well. Think about all the small talks about the weather – it’s always too hot, too windy or too cold! -, in the elevator, or even about how trains or planes are always late.

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Because I work as a coach and do a lot of research on personal development, I have proof everyday that the way we choose to experience certain situation creates our reality. In fact, although we cannot always choose what happens to us, we can always choose how we want to deal with it. Our reaction will impact our day and ultimately our lives.

At any moment, we have the choice to live our life the way we want to, no matter what happens. Pain, failures, problems, difficulties…We can decide to consider ourselves as a powerless victim or we can’t decide that we won’t be a victim of anything or anyone We can choose to be overwhelmed or we can take our happiness in our own hands while celebrating what life gives us.

Very often, however, I notice that we are uncomfortable when it comes time to choose happiness. That’s because we are surrounded by people who prefer complaining, whining, and victimizing themselves. There is a complaint culture going on, and to choose happiness is to be “different”.

There is no shame in choosing happiness.” – Albert Camus, The Plague Vintage (May 7, 1991)

This culture pushes us to complain to relieve our frustrations. We don’t really ask any questions, we just follow the trend, doing like everyone else and complaining about everyone else. For me, this challenge truly evidenced how we tend to feel secure when we come together with others about our problems. We are so used to complaining together that we think that doing otherwise would exclude us.

Fitting in is reassuring, we know what to expect when we complain: we expect to receive compassion from the other person, or perhaps he or she will chime in and feed our suffering.

In addition, a conversation filled with complaining is very surface, it allows us to hide, it is not threatening to others as we are not inviting them to join a conversation in a deep or elevated manner. We lightly talk about negative things without taking any risks. Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to discuss something we are against rather than something we are for?

Sometimes, in our little daily chats, we complain because we feel that if we talk about what’s going our way, if we celebrate, our happiness will be stolen or others will look at us funny and be jealous. So, we decide to spend our energy on what’s hard, what’s not going very well. At the end of day, we create complaining “feasts”. We focus our attention on our problems and thus attracting more unwanted things in our life.

Try it yourself, start your day with a little complaining and you’ll quickly realize that you’ll have all the excuses in the world to complain all day long.

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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