A few rules to follow:
1. Start by wearing a bracelet on the wrist of your choice.
2. If you find yourself complaining, simply change the bracelet to the other wrist and start all over.
3. Don’t get discouraged and remain confident. It may take a few weeks or months to reach 21 consecutive days without complaining but in the end you’ll discover a new life filled with joy and love.
Why 21 days?
According to scientists a new habit is created or takes place in 21 days and it so happens that complaining is very much a habit for many of us.
Why wear a bracelet?
The bracelet is a tool that allows us to become aware and simply reminds us about the challenge to better manage our progress on the path to a more serene life without complaining.
How do I know if I am complaining?
According to the definition “complaining” is like whining. To produce a sustained, high-pitched, plaintive sound, as in pain, fear, or complaint. To complain or protest in a childish or annoying fashion. To produce a sustained noise of high pitch.
Some synonyms: agonize, sulk, grumble, whine, enrage, being angry, grunt, growl, grumble, murmur, pester, protest, rage, claim, gripe, bitch…
When I did my own 21 days challenge, i finally came up with 3 criteria to recognize if I was complaining or not.
THE TONE OF MY VOICE : Am I whining, grumbling, growling… screaming ?
MY POSITION: Am I putting myself in the position of the victim and trying to make someone or something else wrong?. Am I more interested in being right than improving the situation ?
THE ACCURACY OF MY COMMUNICATION : Am i transforming my problem into a drama ? Am I exaggerating because I am afraid that otherwise I won’t be heard ?
Obviously we sometimes have a real natural need to express our discontent, pain or suffering but the majority of people do it without realizing it all day long. They spend their existence affirming and complaining and undergoing all they do not want and this suffering becomes their reality. Instead of complaining, let’s try to communicate and to think about what we want by feeling grateful for what we already have.
How many times a day do people complain?
Between 15 to 30 times a day.
How long does it take to get through the challenge?
In general, people who do it seriously will need between 4 to 10 months to be able to reach 21 consecutive days without complaining. It is not an easy challenge but it’s worth it. You can read the testimonies in the THEY DID IT section!
If I complain in silence in my head, must I also change the bracelet on the other wrist?
When I started the challenge I tried not to complain in my head but it was impossible and unrealistic. I then discovered that this challenge would be attainable and beneficial if I changed the bracelet to the other wrist only when the complaints were uttered out of my mouth. By forcing myself to change the words that came out of my mouth, little by little the complaints in my head slowly disappeared.
What can I do for others around me to stop complaining?
Be the example. When you start to change YOUR own life by quitting complaining (even if you are not a big complainer) you will become an example of positive living and a source of inspiration for others around you. Furthermore, by not participating in the complaints around you, others will be less tempted to complain around you.
I wish you an eye-opening challenge and please let me know how you are doing!
Love & Respect,
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Christine Lewicki is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I Quit Complaining Starter Kit” on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com