First, I had to decide…


Doing this 21 days challenge to quit complaining was more a decision to do the challenge for myself (than for the ones bearing with me and my complaining!). I didn’t do this challenge because I wanted to be a better person for my kids or my spouse (even-thought this challenge truly transformed my relationship with them). I did this challenge because I wanted to transform my relationship with my life !

To be honest, I had plenty of reasons NOT  to do the challenge:  I was busy with work, kids, and I was moving…. etc. So I postponed for many months, until one day, I found myself drained and exhausted in my bed at the end of a “normal” day. That night, I realized I was letting my life pass me by without truly experiencing and savoring it. Even though,  I had a husband, children, and a job I loved, I found out I was complaining way too much (to be honest, I always considered myself to be positive and it took me a while to admit that I was a complainer). It hit me that, one day… (who knows when?)  I was going to die and realize that I had spent my entire life resisting my life! Something had to change… NOW !

Let me tell you that if you want to embark on this challenge, first, you need to do this from a place of curiosity (and not guilt). Imagine how your life  would look like if you could quit complaining? How much is it costing you to complain? Start everyday wondering what opportunities this day is  going to give you to be who you really want to be?  Go one day at a time and don’t give up ! You will fail, you’ll have to start over many, many times but each time you will learn. You’ll learn about what you need to change in your life (how about trying a new morning routine?), you’ll learn to surrender sometimes, you’ll learn to communicate better and to express your needs while resisting the urge to make people wrong…. It takes an average of 6 to 9 months to achieve 21 consecutive days without complaining, but what a journey !
Before my challenge I had this habit of pointing fingers at all the “guilty people” in my life (those who were not doing what I wanted them to!). They were the  reason for my misery! With this challenge,  I took a stand in  my life and decided that not matter what was going to happen during my day, I was not going to be a victim of anything or anyone.  One of my biggest lessons on this journey is that what was really preventing me to live the life I wanted was me. I had to stop blaming “the others” and I had to look within myself.

When you wake up in the morning and you decide that no matter what is going to happen, you won’t be a victim of anything or anyone… then everything becomes possible!
Please join us on July 1st as we are starting a Global 21 day challenge to Quit Complaining.

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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