When we first start this challenge, we quickly realize that other people are what make us complain most of the time! “Our guilty ones”, as I call them. Human nature is not simple and sometimes, others can hurt us. We can’t understand their reactions, we fear not being respected or to be rejected…Others can anger us, stress us out, surprise us, disappoint us…And in those times it’s hard not to complain.
There is a native Indian fable, told at night around the sacred fire, that discusses just that, and it really helped me to accomplish this challenge.
Tale of Two Wolves
One evening, an elderly
Cherokee brave told his
grandson about a battle that
goes on inside people.
He said “my son, the battle is
between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.
One is evil. It is anger,
envy, jealousy, sorrow,
regret, greed, arrogance,
self-pity, guilt, resentment,
inferiority, lies, false pride,
superiority, and ego.
The other is good.
It is joy, peace love, hope serenity,
humility, kindness, benevolence,
truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about
it for a minute and then asked
“Which wolf wins?…”
the old Cherokee simply replied,
“the one that you feed”
And you, which wolf are you feeding? Are you often offended by what others do? Do you feel judged, rejected, accused, neglected… Do you want to punish the ones that hurt you? Or do you refuse to speak to him or her to protect yourself?
This tale of two wolves invites us to understand that when we carry grief, we actually punish ourselves. In the end, we choose to cling to our suffering. We are very sensitive, our nerves are irritable and in the end we are prisoners of our own anger.
This challenge invites us to feed the good wolf living in harmony with others. The wolf who can healthily communicate in a constructive manner. The fair wolf, the wolf who has the courage to forgive to be free. The wolf who takes responsibility and doesn’t act like a victim. The wolf who chooses not to feel the attitude of others. The wolf who chooses happiness and serenity no matter what the others say.
I would like to invite you to observe your wolves and to see which one takes over in your life, at this very moment. Ask yourself if you are satisfied. Does it work for you?
If you want to live in peace, I suggest that you put a bracelet on your wrist and to start the ” 21 days I Quit Complaining Challenge”. Don’t wait until tomorrow, accept the challenge now and get started. Every minute, each success and each failure is a rock that paves the road to a life of serenity.
Decide to get started, declare it to your friends and family members and go !
Love & Respect,
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