“Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.” Phyllis Diller
Have you noticed how as parents we can sometimes become stuck in our principles? We want to do such a good job raising our children, we want our couple life to thrive and we have such a very precise idea of how things ” must “or “should” be in our home and in our life. We know what we need and we want everything to happen as we have planned it.
- Our children must be polite
- Their rooms must be clean and tidy and the clothes put away in their dressers
- They must stay at the dinner table until the end of the meal
- They have to help us empty the dishwasher and take out the trash
- The house must be tidy
- The socks cannot lie around on the floor
- The toilet seat must be up (or down)
- Our spouse has to help us put the kids to bed
- We must make love at least 3 times a week
- …/…. ( fill in your own blanks )
We have such a preconceived notion of how our organized and happy life is supposed to look like that we often become really stubborn and spend our time complaining because it’s not happening the way we want! We are also afraid to become too easy-going and that everything we get out of control if we do, so to counter effect we try to control everything and our daily life becomes a succession of complaints.
After I did my 21 day challenge to stop complaining (which took about 4 1/2 months) I was able to reevaluate and pick and choose my battles with my children and my spouse. I will leave you with this quote from anonymous author ( if you know who said it please let me know)
“Before, I had principles… now. I have children!” Unknown author
Does this speak to you ?
Love and Respect,
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