Give yourself permission to recharge your batteries!

28 Jul

Summer or not, many of us don’t get to go on a long vacation… but we can take time for a getaway and even make a habit of it!

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In his book, The Charge,* Brendon Burchard talks about, among other things, the importance of  seeking challenges that will help you  live life to its fullest.

It will come as no surprise that I am an advocate of many topics in his book. Following my 21 day “I Quit Complaining Challenge” (in French “j’arrête de râler”), I decided to undertake other challenges, such as 21 days of drinking vegetable juice for breakfast, 21 days in dresses, 21 days to celebrate, 21 days without media, 21 days of sit-ups…

One of the challenges in Burchard’s book that grabbed my attention is the  “90 days getaway challenge”. This challenge consists of planning a getaway alone, or as a couple, every 90 days to recharge our batteries and reconnect with ourselves. There’s no need anymore to wait for official “vacation”! Whoohoo!

When I read about this idea my heart started to sing!!! Take a getaway every 90 days to recharge your batteries. (Your cousin’s wedding across country doesn’t count as a getaway.) A getaway of a day, a weekend, or a week (without the kids), to disconnect from daily life, without any phone or emails… just taking a little time for ourselves!

Take a little time to try something new and different. For instance, discover a new city, dive into a new book, start a new activity, participate in a program to reconnect with yourself (a spiritual retreat, some coaching, or the  Wake Up! seminar!)

It’s your turn:

  • What would you do if you could take off for a day, or a few days alone or with your spouse, to recharge your batteries? Make a list of all the things that would do you good, bring you serenity and help your growth. (Be careful not to censure yourself, make a list of everything that makes YOUR heart sing!)

 

  • Take a look at your calendar and schedule dates for your 4 upcoming getaways in the next 12 months (one every 3 months). Have fun with it! Dream!

 

  • Take time to plan with your spouse the logistics of your getaway ( budget, childcare) to make this project a reality. If need be, start a special “getaway piggy bank” to help finance your projects.

 

Happy getaways!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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How to tap into your creativity?

7 Jul

This video is awesome! I was lucky to meet Sue Morter and to listen to her talks many times LIVE in Los Angeles (and to dance with her). She always has this talent for combining science, spiritual wisdom and inspiration.  You’ll be be transformed by watching it.

When science meets what we intuitively know… we are what our minds tell us we are!

Do you feel that you are not a creative person? If that is the case you are not alone. We are all creative beings but sometimes we have a hard time tapping into that creativity. We feel stuck,  we limit ourselves and in the end we can’t see the possibilities for creation.

One of our biggest source of complaining is the feeling that we are not self-fulfilled, the sense that we are not fully activating our lives – an intuition that we are living our lives half-asleep. Chasing after time and money, running after deadlines, feeling sometimes like a hamster in a wheel, feeling overwhelmed… and wondering if we are going anywhere.

When I decided to quit complaining, I learned to activate my creative potential. I learned to tap into my creativity to solve problems in unexpected ways, I learned to tap into my creativity to feel and express myself… that creativity transformed my life!

How can we tap into our creativity?

-When we step outside of the box (and stop thinking of ourselves as victims).

-When we create space through the heart, we then receive creative energy and that energy gets into our full human experience.

The human heart is more powerful than the brain in creating energy. These energy fields penetrate every part of our bodies and provide a coherent message that bombards the physical body. We are deeply affected by these energy fields our bodies receive and they become our thoughts! The thoughts that come from the heart space are the creative thoughts.

Watch until the end to practice deep breathing and movement exercises that will help you to release obstacles –  energy frequencies and thoughts – that may be standing in the way of your creative potentials.

How do you feel after doing those exercises?

 

The power of Habit!

8 Jun

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“Hundreds of habits influence our days—they guide how we get dressed in the morning, talk to our kids, and fall asleep at night; they impact what we eat for lunch, how we do business, and whether we exercise or have a beer after work. Each of them has a different cue and offers a unique reward. Some are simple and others are complex, drawing upon emotional triggers and offering subtle neurochemical prizes. But every habit, no matter its complexity, is malleable. The most severely addicted alcoholics can become sober. The most dysfunctional companies can transform themselves. A high school dropout can become a successful manager. However, to modify a habit, you must decide to change it. You must consciously accept the hard work of identifying the cues and rewards that drive the habit’s routines, then find alternatives and support. You must know you have control and be self-conscious enough to use it—and every chapter in this book is devoted to illustrating a different aspect of why that control is real.”

—Charles Duhigg from The Power of Habit

When I decided to start my 21 Day Challenge to Quit Complaining I did it because I realized that I was constantly “resisting” my days.  I was not conscious of this dynamic because the resistance was mild but it was always there and it showed up in those complaints. I would come home and complain about the mess in my house, the dirty dishes in the sink, about other cars on the road (bad driving is like bad breath, you notice it only when it is someone else’s!) I was complaining about my emails or about my Internet provider – all day long without being aware of it, I was resisting. It was a habit!

I did not want to realize on my deathbed that I had spent my entire life resisting it. I wanted to savor this life – with the messy house, with the demanding kids, with the emails… I wanted to create a new relationship with my (not always very sexy) life.

I undertook a challenge because I wanted to set myself free from this habit.  I knew that having the “intention” to embrace my everyday frustrations with a positive attitude was not going to be enough; I knew that the next day I was going to get caught up in the spiral of daily routines and that I was simply going to forget my good intention.

I wanted to train my brain and create new habits, habits that would set me free from falling into “victim mode,” habits that would allow me to be more present and more responsible in my life.

Can you identify negative habits that get in the way of fully enjoying your life ?

If complaining is one of them, I invite you to start the challenge today!

You can read in more detail about the beginning of my journey with the challenge here. The challenge may take you 21 days or a even a year, but I guarantee it will change your life!

 

 

A powerful tool, concrete and delicious !

3 May

Those of you who follow my writing and the message I bring know that two of my favorite themes are learn not to be a victim of everyday life and dare to take risks.

Today I am sharing with you a delicious, concrete and powerful tool that has the potential to transform your life – the gratitude list.

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It’s easy!

What you need:

A pencil or pen and something to write on.

You will place them close to your bed or on your desk.

How?

Every night before you sleep, write down everything that was positive in your day.

Regardless of the trials you were faced with in that day, write a list of things, people and events that brought you well-being and made you grateful.

The point is not to write a novel!

At the beginning, especially when we are confronted with a particularly trying day, it may seem impossible.

So we delve a little deeper and we write things that we tend to consider “a given,” such as,

-I am healthy

-I have enough to eat

-I have a comfortable bed

-I have a job…

The following day may be a very good day and you’ll find plenty of other things to write, such as,

-I am healthy

-I had enough to eat

-I have a comfortable bed

-I have a job

-My colleagues and I had a very nice lunch

-My daughter scored 10 out of 10 in math

-I love my yoga class

-My sister visited me

-It was sunny all morning …

By practicing this little exercise every day, you will find that you’ll discover more and more ‘little things’ for which you are grateful that you were not necessarily conscious of…

-The cat is purring

-My neighbor smiled at me

-There was no traffic on the freeway

-I heard an interesting  interview on the radio…

In short, all those little details that give flavor to our daily  lives and which, once finally recognized and appreciated, help us little by little to build a whole new perspective on life. Your gratitude list will help shine light on the ‘beautiful and the good’ around you.

It will help you to appreciate and therefore cultivate the abundance and brilliance of your life.

Try it and see.

I assure you that cultivating gratitude is worth it!

Neuroscience proves it; I recommend this article based on research conducted at the university of Berkeley in California  “expanding the science and practice of gratitude”

 

Everyday new opportunities arise!

11 Apr

My “ordinary” life becomes extra{ordinary} when I recognize that I have talents and choose to activate them!

Everyday life

When others are not doing their jobs {well}

1 Apr

When others are not doing their jobs (well)!

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Here is a question from a reader :

“Hi, I’m aware that I complain a lot, mainly at my work. For years now, I’ve observed that conscientious and respectful people are becoming harder to find. Every day I depend on businesses and administrators to move my work forward. Either their work is not done, or it contains errors. I constantly have to start over, explain, double check the work, and WAIT. So I am moaning to people over the phone and via email… How can I handle this? – Maryse

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Dear Maryse,

Thank you for your question, it is quite relevant! I am certain many readers are also confronted with this issue. I will attempt to help you with the lessons I learned in undertaking the challenge “I quit complaining (and bitching).”

As I read your message I tell myself that the real question is:

Is it okay to feel the victim of others and their behavior?

We think pointing at all the culprits in our lives puts us in a stronger position (and that hopefully our complaints will cause the other person’s attitude to change) but in the end we end up punishing ourselves.

Complaining does not help make others want to meet our needs (quite the contrary). They will either want to distance themselves or become defensive. At best, others will bend to our incessant demands because they will grow tired of our complaints, but in the end our real need will not be satisfied – the need for cooperation or collective contribution. We will have to wield the ‘stick’ to make others bend to our needs tomorrow again (and it is exhausting to always be the controlling one).

Yes, co-workers often make mistakes and are late… It is part of the challenges of group work and community life. And yes, if we want, we can find plenty of evidence that people are not conscientious or respectful enough. But what if we could free ourselves of those judgments?

And what would happen if you refused to feel a victim in this situation? You could then pay attention to what you could actually do to improve the contribution of all, and on the concrete steps you could take by inspiring instead of threatening.

 

6 steps to communicate so that you can be heard

3 Mar

A few months ago I wrote an article titled: Learning to express our needs and frustrations differently.part 1 and part 2

Today I want to share with you a visual that I have created to remind myself of this process. I printed it, taped it to my fridge and I am using it everyday.

Because sometimes we do have something to say to the people around us. We do need them to help us meet our needs. But it’s not always easy to communicate. The more important the need is, the more chances we have to slip into our blaming and complaining habit and let’s face it it’s exhasuting to complain and not feel heard.

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