First, I had to decide…

16 Jun

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Doing this 21 days challenge to quit complaining was more a decision to do the challenge for myself ( than for the ones bearing with me and my complaining !). I didn’t do this challenge because I wanted to be a better person for my kids or my spouse  ( even-thought this challenge truly transformed my relationship with them). I did this challenge because I wanted to transform my relationship with my life !

To be honest, I had plenty of reasons NOT  to do the challenge:  I was busy with work, kids, and I was moving…. etc. So I postponed for many months, until one day, I found myself drained and exhausted in my bed at the end of a “normal” day. That night, I realized I was letting my life pass me by without truly experiencing and savoring it. Even though,  I had a husband, children, and a job I loved, I found out I was complaining way too much ( to be honest, I always considered myself to be positive and it took me a while to admit that I was a complainer).  It hit me that, one day… ( who knows when?)  I was going to die and realize that I had spent my entire life resisting my life ! Something had to change… NOW !

Let me tell you that if you want to embark on this challenge, first, you need to do this from a place of curiosity ( and not guilt). Imagine how your life  would look like if you could quit complaining ? How much is it costing you to complain? Start everyday wondering what opportunities this day is  going to give you to be who you really want to be ?  Go one day at a time and don’t give up ! You will fail, you’ll have to start over many, many times but each time you will learn. You’ll learn about what you need to change in your life ( how about trying a new morning routine?), you’ll learn to surrender sometimes, you’ll learn to communicate better and to express your needs while resisting the urge to make people wrong….   It takes an average of 6 to 9 months to achieve 21 consecutive days without complaining, but what a journey !
 
Before my challenge I had this habit of pointing fingers at all the “guilty people” in my life ( those who were not doing what I wanted them to !). They were the  reason for my misery! With this challenge,  I took a stand in  my life and decided that not matter what was going to happen during my day, I was not going to be a victim of anything or anyone.  One of my biggest lessons on this journey is that what was really  preventing me to live the life I wanted was me. I had to stop blaming ” the others” and I had to look within myself.

When you wake up in the morning and you decide that no matter what is going to happen, you won’t be a victim of anything or anyone… then everything becomes possible !
 
Please join us on July 1st as we are starting a Global 21 day challenge to Quit Complaining.
 

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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Join the 21 Day Quit Complaining Challenge!

8 Jun

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 Have you ever noticed how when we desire to create change or give birth to a new reality in our life, we have a tendency to wait until everything is perfect ?

Today, I’d like to invite you to join me and start your 21 Day Challenge !

THE CHALLENGE:

Goal: 21 consecutive days without complaining

Why 21 days?

According to scientists a new habit is created or takes place in 21 days and it so happens that complaining is very much a habit for many of us.

A few rules to follow:
1. Start by wearing a bracelet on the wrist of your choice

2. If you find yourself complaining simply change the bracelet to the other wrist and start all over

3. Don’t get discouraged and remain confident. It may take a few weeks or months to reach your goal but in the end you’ll discover a new life filled with joy and love

Why wear a bracelet?

The bracelet is a tool that allows us to become aware and simply reminds us about the challenge to better manage our progress on the path to a more serene life without complaining.

I also invite you to read through the blog articles  if you want to dig deeper on this topic and find out the back story of my personal challenge to quit complaining and bitching!

Click here to join the 21 Day Quit Complaining Challenge  on Facebook !

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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Stop Allowing Others to Rob you of Your Joy!

4 Jun

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What if we stopped allowing others to rob us of our joy and serenity?  “Others” have the right the say “no” or say whatever they want for that matter ( as long as it’s not illegal) and we have the right not to take it personally and get offended.

When we allow what someone else says or does get on our nerves, we allow this person to control us.

What if we stopped putting our joy in someone else’s hands?

There will always be people who will not do what we like or will say things that we don’t appreciate.  We can blame them and make them wrong and guilty but when we do that we are positioning ourselves as victims as well. ( there’s no guilty party, without a victim!)

On the other hand, we can make the firm decision that no matter what happens we will not be a victim, and no matter what others do or say we can enjoy living free and happy.

We can be determined to enjoy this beautiful day  ( and this beautiful life ) which is given us to live !

What do you think?

Are you ready to  join me on July 1st for the Global 21 Day Challenge to Quit Complaining ?  Click here to join the Facebook event and invite your friends!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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Be the Change

30 May

THE COMPLAINERS AND I

Yes, I was the complainer and played victim. before I started the 21 Day Quit Complaining challenge… and another thing that motivated me to take over this challenge was how much I was affected by the complainers all around me.

Being surrounded by complainers in my daily life, out in public, at work, at home, takes up a lot of my energy. I am sensitive to their negativity and it usually ruins my day. I might end up feeling their anger, or I sympathize with their complaints, sometimes I even feel guilty and end up asking myself if I did anything to make them complain!

What about you? Are there any complainers in your life?  How do you feel when you hear them whine?

For me, this was all a realization. The way I react when surrounded by complainers made me realize the importance of not complaining for my husband, my kids, my friends, professional relations or even my colleagues.

If other people’s complaints affect me that much, I have and had  to change.

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” Be the change you want to see in the world ” Ghandi

I remember very vividly the day when things clicked and I decided to finally start the challenge. I had this idea to do 21 days without complaining a few weeks prior, but at that time I didn’t have the courage to dive in. Twenty-one days without complaining is a lot. I made up a bunch of excuses: I don’t have time, it’s not the right time, I don’t want to have one more thing to stress over or even think about.

But despite all of this, one day when we were hanging out with close friends, things just clicked. We were all together eating some good food at my friend Sabine’s house, who was nice enough to have us over. A nice Sunday meal with all the kids running around, while the parents enjoyed a cup of a coffee after the feast. Then we started talking about people who complain all the time. We all agreed that it was exhausting to be surrounded by complainers. And then I heard myself say: “those people who complain all the time are lame, they’re wasting their time…”. At this very moment, it clicked: I realized that I was now complaining about complainers!

It took me this very moment to finally decide to do it, to get out of this downward spiral, of this habit I don’t like. And this is how the “I Quit Complaining” challenge was anchored in my life.

 THANK YOU,  GANDHI

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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What is Your Recurrent Complaint ?

28 May

What is you recurrent complaint ? Is there a complaint that comes out of your mouth more often than others. This one is almost automatic, it comes back almost every day, sometimes even many times during the same day, or even first thing upon awakening.

For me,  I found that my recurrent complaint has been ” I am too fat”, or ” I am not making enough money” , or ” I spend too much time on my emails”.

As soon as I decided to embark on this journey to quit complaining, I realized that I had to start to do something different in my life if I wanted to get a different result. As Einstein says it very well “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”.

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So, I decided to replace insanity with discipline. If I wanted to stop complaining about my body I had to do something every day toward getting fit or else I should let go of my expectation to have a fit body ! Simple, right ?

We complain when there is gap between what we expect and  our reality. The most powerful way to reduce suffering and thus the complaining that goes with it is to reduce this gap. Either we work on improving  our reality, or we work on letting go of our expectations!

That’s when discipline becomes our best friend. Instead of seeing discipline as a constraint we start to see it as our key to freedom and fulfillment. Setting free of our frustrations, dealing with them one day at a time to create the life that we truly want.

You cannot be happy without discipline. In fact, if you want to measure the level of happiness in your life, measure your level of discipline. You will never have more happiness than you have discipline. The two are directly linked to each other. If you want to increase the level of fulfillment and happiness in a certain area of your life, increase your level of discipline in that area of your life. On the other hand, if you find that you are altogether too happy too much of the time, you may want to think about decreasing the level of discipline in your life. Discipline and happiness are directly linked.”   ~ Matthew Kelly from Perfectly Yourself

 

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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How Lucky I Am….

21 May

Today I want to share with you this beautiful quote from Albert Eistein.

“From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: that we are here for the sake of each other— above all for those upon whose smile and well-being our own happiness depends, and also for the countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy. Many times a day I realize how much my own outer and inner life is built upon the labors of my fellow men, both living and dead, and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received.”

There is so much wisdom in this quote. Yes, we tend to be so caught up into our every day “little stories and drama”s that we forget to asknowledge all those things that life is giving us. We turn on the radar of all the things that others are not doing for us and all the things that we don’t have ( time, money….).

We complain about our kids who are struggling to get ready in the morning, we complain about the cars on the road that are slowing us down, we rant about our never ending to do list, we grunt about how tired we feel at the end of the day, and how there is still so much to be done… We are living a life of lack and limitations, and we forget to see what life is actually giving us.

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How lucky I am to live this life. How grateful I am for all the things that I get to enjoy everyday  because others before me worked really hard to create them and make them accessible to me.  How amazing it is that I have in my own home a dishwasher, a washer ,and a dryer. I even have two cars in my driveway !!! I got to move into this awesome house in this lovely neigborrod and I did nothing to build any of that ! I just get to use and enjoy those things ! Isn’t that amazing ?

So Yes ,I have decided to stop complaining and to start living. I have decided to see what life is giving me and liberate myself from the lack and limitation mindset. I have decided  to be more interested by what I can create for others instead of wasting this beautiful life in and with  my little problems.

How about you ? Are you ready to embark on this journey with me ?

 

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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Is Being Positive Enough ? ( video)

18 May

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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