1 Sep

IQC Pressure cooker

“I Quit Complaining” may seem like admitting weakness, or being a yes-man. But to “quit complaining” doesn’t mean to “agree to everything” or “deny our disapproval.”

I noticed, as I was doing the  21 day challenge, that quite often I  would end-up complaining  after experiencing a situation for too long, or when a situation would recur repetitively. I complained because I would try  to bottle  my frustration, to try to see things positively, to assume responsibility, and stay quiet to  avoid acting like a hysterical witch… And in the end, after a while, I just exploded!  I exploded just like the lid of a pressure cooker that has been lifted off. So much  pressure had built up that it became unbearable and it had to come out !  While releasing the pressure, I would still fuss about the situation.  During those moments,  we tend to say that “complaining serves a purpose” or “ it’s not healthy to hold the pressure in, it’s healthier to let it out ! The question is : couldn’t we actually have avoided getting to that point?

I made the realization that when faced with a difficult situation, it’s important not to suppress my frustration, not try to keep it in, because in the end the pressure cooker will explode – and sometimes ( often times)  the pressure will explode unexpectedly and has nothing to do with my initial frustration!

Let’s look at an example from my own life: I’m frustrated because my young daughter is crying for me to carry her in my arms all day long. I cave in because I don’t have the courage to handle the situation and manage the crisis that will ensue if I say no, so I decide to stay quiet. I carry her and I do everything I can to make her stop yelling in my ears. I take it in stride …and at some point later in the day, my other daughter asks for something and my reaction is to explode!

I’m sick of this, it’s not possible, I can’t do everything, I’m tired, you can figure it out on your own!!!” My answer is completely disproportionate in relation to her demand because it’s linked to another long-standing and bottled up frustration. The pressure cooker exploded on my other daughter who hasn’t done anything. She takes the hit from the frustration I bottled in all day long because I wasn’t able to take care of myself and my needs. I couldn’t respect my limits and now I’m feeling sad and guilty for my over-reaction.

Another real life situation for those who  don’t have kids:

I’m working on a difficult project for many days – hours are going by and I’m far from being done. I could get some help, but I don’t know how and I’m afraid that it’ll cost too much (and it’s easier to get it done myself than to train someone to do it for me). I’m skipping meals, I go to bed late, I’m exhausted. I’m starting to get very  frustrated. In addition, it’s not the first time that this situation happens. On top of it, other people are coming to me to get some help. It’s not a lot, just one little thing here, one little thing there, so I say yes because I can’t see myself saying no. They are after all people I actually do want to help. After a while, I start feeling as though I’m stretched out in all directions. Finally, one day, at the end of the day, my computer breaks down and then I explode!  I start complaining and I’m really angry.  Computer problems are just the cherry on top, the trigger that makes the pressure cooker go overboard. But the pressure had been building up for a few days, progressively, and I didn’t do anything to try to reduce it as time went by. I let the situation get worse.

Doing the challenge helped me to realize the importance of releasing the pressure regularly as time went by. It’s important to be careful when I feel the pressure building up, to take care of myself, to set my limits, express my needs, say no when needed, ask for help,  release the pressure before it worsens and sometimes also change my point of view on the situation. It’s a constant challenge, at every hour, every moment, but it brings such serenity.

Listen to your body, acknowledge, and stop when you feel the pressure building up, heat coming on, your stomach in a knot…your body is talking to you and telling you that the situation is about to get even worse. What can you do to ease the pressure? Define three actions and plan to implement them within the next 48 hours.

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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6 Golden Rules to Get Things Done Without Complaining !

21 Aug IQC Impossible until its done
  • You’ve been wanting to write a book for many years, but never find the time to start ?
  • You’ve been wanting to take that  trip for the last 5 years, but everything and everyone gets in the way  ?
  • You want to make a career change, but you postpone your decision with excuses (when the kids will be grown, when my to do list is done, when I can see clearly, when I am less afraid of change and the list goes on…)

In the end, you procrastinate and spend your day dealing with all the daily things to do and avoid that whole aspect of your life. Guilt settles in and time becomes your #1 enemy. Don’t panic ! Don’t complain ! Solutions are on the horizon. I’ve identified 6  Golden Rules to get things done without complaining. Those rules  have changed my own life and  have allowed me to make progress and take daily action on things that really matter to me without slacking on my other responsibilities.

1. Deliberately Choose to Slow Down Time 

Have you sometimes used these comments during a conversation :” Where did the time go ?’ or “The older I get, the faster time goes ” … ? Start by banishing these seemingly harmless remarks from your conversations.  “Your words create your reality”, if you declare that time goes too fast, it is very likely that you won’t see time go by.  Starting today, refrain from complaining about time, even better slow down and become more conscious about the time that you DO have. Observe how your day unfolds, take a break every two hours for instance, go take a walk, take a few deep breaths by an open window or choose any other resourceful activity. Slow down time just for an instant and then….

2. Anchor Yourself  in the Present 

I heard once that the past creates depression and the future anxiety. it’s an exaggeration, but it forces us to focus on the present which is the only tangible reality in our life. Easier said than done. It comes with practice, I still find myself going back and forth in my  mind in between the past and the future, what matters is to identify it and press “pause”. If my brain is overheating with a thousand thoughts a second, I take a deep breath and I remind myself that only the present moment exist.

3. Set Up Personal  21 Day Challenges 

Here’s an exercise I use during my  Wake Up  seminars which I lead  several times a year. I ask the participants to make a list of their most cherished desires for the upcoming year. During this exercise I can witness rays of  sunlight illuminating their faces as if liberated from their conscious or unconscious limitations.  Then I invite them to play with the idea of starting a challenge !  A 21 days challenge to create the reality that they really want !   For example:  You want to write a book!  Start a challenge to write every day, if only for 15 minutes for the next 21 days. Who says you have to write 6 hours a day to become an author? The habit will be anchored in you and the book will take shape. Be grateful for all the steps you took. Step by step on the stairway of time, you aim towards the realization of your dreams !  Consistency and repetition of all your little efforts towards your GREAT project will make ALL the difference.

4.  Sort Out Your Agenda

Yes, like the old adage goes, to choose is to let go . Take a  look at  Monday and then all the days  coming up in your busy week. Can schedule some time for yourself? No, really ?  You are in resistance.  I proceed this way regularly revising my agenda in function of  the things I want to put at the heart of my life. I seek to simplify my commitments, to devote to less things but to devote myself fully to create more value for me and others.  Dare to say NO more often rather than overloading yourself  out of a strong sense of obligation because you think that you “have to say yes” or fear to not be a “good” person if you don’t ?

5. Create the Space for Projects that  Matter to Your Heart 

I’ve personally learned not to let myself get invaded by useless and valueless activities and to block out a real space in my agenda towork on my big ideas. For example, when I plan a new seminar, I decide to devote myself one evening a week to prepare it  in a cafe with an inspiring atmosphere.  The same when I was writing my book  “J’arrête de râler”  ( I Quit Complaining!) I chose to spend the first hours of my day writing. I started getting up at 5:45 AM ( which  was unheard of for me to wake up before  7 A M,  so I had to alter my pre-conceptions)  to write an hour before the kids got up.  I’ve recently started to create a new space in my agenda. Every 4th Friday of the month have become  “reflexions days” . I spend the day OFFline in an inspiring place ( the beach or the tearoom of a luxury hotel for instance )  with a pad and my coloring pencils. What a delight to be able to get away from the daily grind  and to create space to listen to what wants  to emerge and reveal itself through me !

6. Put Discipline at the Heart of Your Daily Life 

STOP  multitasking!  We, women are particularly good at it. Dare do one task fully after another more effectively. If you want results, there are no secrets. Start a project and finish it before starting another to avoid dispersion.  I block out some time each day when I am not allowed to check my never-ending  emails or allowing social media to entice me  (POMODORO  is a great tool to discipline and keeps me focused).  With a little discipline, you will gain in energy, in time and confidence in yourself as you witness the results of your new resolutions taking shape.

 I hope that these few basic steps will help you improve your relationship with time and reduce your frustration  throughout your day.  Time well used can help us master our day with the  choices we make, become accountable for each passing hour and see our dreams become a reality in a year, three years, five years from now… without complaining!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed  to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. Download your ”I Quit Complaining Starter Kit”  on the blog

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4 Golden Rules to Manage Time Without Complaining !

17 Aug


It’s easy to get side-tracked with all the things we need to do during the day!  Without proper preparation and focus we can waste precious time and this may lead to feeling frustrated and we end up  complaining !

Have you ever started off  your day with great intentions and energy to conquer all  to  complete  your  TO DO list, only to find yourself a few hours later still handling your emails or getting lost in the amount of info popping left and right  from your computer screen and losing track of the task at hand?

You’re not alone! It’s so easy to get overwhelmed and distracted.  How can you manage your time more effectively and actually get things done everyday to avoid  complaining?   I’d like to share with you my 4 Golden Rules that I use and that help me be more productive and keep on task.

GOLDEN RULE #1 – Get up early – The first thing that allows me to take action towards my goal and ambition is to have the “discipline” to get up early to start my day before everyone else at home, 5 days out of 7,  I get up before the house wakes up with a “ fresh mind” and a cup of coffee. It’s not always easy to stick to, but in the end I know I will have more satisfaction to advance on my projects versus spending an additional 2 hours sleeping-in! ( I can always take a nap after lunch)

GOLDEN RULE #2  – Exercise –  Taking care of my body allows me to feel “empowered’ and “ connected: in all areas of my life.  There’s no excuses to procrastinate and postpone to the next day . We can ALWAYS find at least 10 minutes in a day to exercise and feel great in the process!

GOLDEN RULE  #3 – Remain clear on what you want to accomplice –  I can’t accomplish anything big when my head is filled with all these  “TO DO” things.  It feels as if everything is spinning in every corner and I live anxiously fearing to forget something. When I start my day,  I need to know exactly what needs to be done urgently and also be able to devote some time to  a project that matters to me. If I want to make progress, not waste time  and avoid  feeling frustrated and complain,  I know that I must give myself every opportunity to accomplish the task I need and to do this I use the marvelous ( and free) tool called KANBAN 

GOLDEN RULE #4- Stay focused to work more effectively and less – There’s nothing worse  for me than to start  my day with good intention only to allow  my computer, emails, and demands from others invade me. Time just flies and I end up wasting precious time  feeling more disappointed and confused than before I started and this is great feeding ground for complaining!   Once I am clear on the tasks that I need to accomplish in my schedule, I must stay focused on the task  ( no answering phone calls, making a cup of coffee,  checking Facebook etc… )  For the last few years now, I  have relied on the Pomodoro Technique  to keep me on track and it works like a charm.

Let me know how this works out for you! How do you manage your time without complaining and tell me how your 21 Day Quit Complaining Challenge is going ?

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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How to Reveal the Best Version of Yourself

12 Aug

We spend such energy working on our business growth & development all year, it’s shame to lose momentum in the summer and then have to double up our energy and efforts in the fall  to relaunch it, especially when we are heading for the last haul and trimester of the year. What if summer became an ally to our success ? What if summer was not only a source of  rest and relaxation, but also a source of wealth and power?

To avoid complaining about back to business, try my 4 tips to put summer at the service of your projects and reveal the best version of yourself in the process”

  • Dare create the space for your creativity.  During the summer we have the luxury of more time! We can ease up on our to do list and our emails and finally enjoy  activating our creativity. Do you dream of writing? We are entering a season particularly well suited  to advance on a book project or take care of a blog.  Step by step,  have the gentle discipline to dare put your great ideas on paper.
  •  Create your vision for the next upcoming months.  As we are taking some distance for the daily spiral of activities, summer is a privilege time to reevaluate your vision for the fall. You can use  techniques like Mind-mapping and answer the following questions:
  1. What are 3 projects that are close to my heart in the next 6 months ?
  2. What means do I have to devote to these projects? ( time, competencies, money …)
  3. What quality time do I want to put at he heart of my life to take care of my source ? ( yoga, singing, dancing, nature walks, meditation…)
  4. Do I feel like enrolling in a seminar or training ? ( what and how much…)
  5. How can I contribute more value to others? ( my colleagues, teams, clients …)
  6. What are the 3 actions that I want to put in action in September to have the biggest impact in my life ?
  • Reconnect with the wisdom of your body and your soul .  With the weight of stress and responsibility, we tend to surrender control of our life to our brain. Our brain manages, avoids problems, finds solution… we spend a great deal of our year reasonning, thinking , analyzing and coming up with solutions. Our brain is the boss and our future depends on its ability to analyse situations and make the right decisions.  Try to  quiet  your brain and use another form of intelligence:  the intelligence of your body and soul. What if your heart was seeking to tell you something ? Are you ready to hear and listen?  You’ll need to disconnect from your brain a bit, empty the space and reconnect with your inner self. Danse,  mediate, move, explore the possibilities of your body are all ways to do that.  Remove the blockages which prevent brilliance to emerge and dare see the invisible and hear the inaudible.
  • Celebrate. Summer is also the time to celebrate. Celebrate what we have accomplished   over the year and take the time to rejoice in the beautiful things that life ( or other people)  has brought us and which may  have gone unnoticed. Take the time to SAY thank you to significant others in your life, your spouse, family, friends, colleagues, and life in general. We have such an innate ability to express our complaints and dissatisfaction focusing on what others have done poorly or not done for us..  let’s make an effort to whine ourselves from all  negativity and let’s have the guts to develop our celebration muscle. 

Do you want to allow your great ideas emerge and receive support to reveal the best version of you ?  You can still  join the  on-going 21 Day Challenge to Quit  Complaining and Bitching !

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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Let’s Quit Complaining and Step Out of Your Comfort Zone !

7 Aug

If you’ve been reading me for a while  you know that my passion is to help ordinary people ( like me, like all of us ) create {extra}ordinary lives and I always like to add … one {im}perfect action at a time.

People that come to my  seminars  are in general people who are starting to feel that they are side-stepping a part of their  lives.  They have spent several years trying to be conform to what they think others expect them to be  ( their parents, teachers, boss, spouse, society…) and today realize that it is urgent that they learn to dare be themselves in their power and {im} perfect brilliance!

I believe  that at certain moments of our lives we realize that our comfort zone is in fact our mediocrity zone! We feel the drive of life inside us and we want to honor it.  At the same time we are afraid and we don’t know where to start… so often we fall back in the comfort of our daily life, we “keep busy” to manage the priorities that come to us and little by little we forget about our inner longing for more… and this may lead to a lot of frustration and we complain!

our confort zone is mediocrity

By staying stuck in what is familiar, by getting lost in all our “urgent” matters ( which are not really urgent), by continuing to do what we know how to do  ( even if we do it well) , by persisting to stay on the rails of the already traced line of our life ( or our resume), we can one day wake up and realize that a whole part of ourselves has been ignored and  dying inside.

If a part of yourself recognizes itself in these words then I would like to invite you to answer the following questions:

  • What’s s inside me that wants to emerge?
  • What part of me did I ignore for too many years?
  • What would bring me most joy and pleasure in my life?
  • What can I do differently as of next week to start putting all this at the heart of my life?

To stop living half-asleep and quit complaining  is a wonderful adventure for a lifetime. It is a path, a perspective we choose and I must forewarn you the path is not always light or easy.

There will be discomfort. You will have to overcome your biggest limitations and beliefs, heal your personal wounds so that little by little you will be able to create a new perception of yourself and life.

As I write this article today, I want to let you know that when we engage on this path it is impossible to escape discomfort. And yet, it is on the other side of this discomfort that you will be able to give birth to the new version of yourself.

I often compare my work as a coach with the work of a midwife. I help my clients give birth to their brilliance and their whole being. I help people break free  from what prevents them to live fully. It is such a wonderful adventure and it doesn’t happen overnight. It requires labor, contractions and lots of deep breathing!

This work, this birthing process and  stepping-out of the comfort zone could take some time depending on the person. Some people will birth the new version of themselves in a few weeks or a few months and others even a few years. During this transformation you will encounter  profound moments of overcoming and joy but also intense moments of doubt and for some anxiety…

You will have to overcome your limitations and negative beliefs and you can be certain that life will  challenge you exactly where you need it most to provoke you and put you in situations where you will have no other choice than to choose between giving-up and withdrawing or having the courage to confront what blocks you to finally shine .

Some times you will want to seek refuge once again in your comfort zone and I have no doubt that after a while you will get back in the adventure and you will dare once again to take action. You will have ups and downs, moments when you feel the world is yours and other times when you feel overwhelmed by doubts and ask yourself ” Who am I to dare pretend that I can succeed in my project?”

I’d really like to invite you to not get discouraged and remember that in the end in the scale of  life this discomfort does not last that long and that people who have gone through this before will tell you that the reward is much more precious and worth it.

Be aware that this discomfort cannot be avoided, It is part of the journey. Such as the delivery of a baby , it is a vital step for your birth.  Try it and you’ll see that after giving birth a first time you might want  to do it all over again!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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The Key to Combine Power and Serenity in Your Life

4 Aug

Originally posted on Two languages, One voice:

The Key to Combine Power and Serenity in Your Life

Have you ever noticed how when we desire to create change or give birth to a new reality in our life, we have a tendency to wait until everything is perfect ?

Whether it be starting the challenge I Quit Complaining and Bitching, writing a book,  launching an internet website. or a business… we can quickly start to feel overwhelmed by the huge amount of things to do to reach the finish line.

So, we either procrastinate and postpone to later the moment when we are going to handle the project. We tell ourselves ” Later, when I am ready, when conditions will be better…” Or  full of ambition, we throw caution to the wind ignoring all our resources to go the distance. We forge ahead , going in all directions and after a few days,  we start to…

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Taking Charge of Your Life NOW !

31 Jul

IQC start today

21 consecutive days without complaining….a life changing challenge, that you will probably never start because of all the excuses you’ll find.

To successfully complete this challenge, we have to stop postponing it and start  right away.  Part of you probably has a deep desire to integrate this transformation in your life. Yet, I bet that one part of you is tempted to put this off until tomorrow. Part of you wants to wait until you’re “ready”. There is always something to “take care of” before we start. Maybe you’re telling yourself:

I’ll quit complaining when”…

#I’ll have a job

#I’ll be less tired

#I’ll be done moving

#I’ll have a boyfriend/girlfriend

#I’ll have a new job and won’t have to endure my boss anymore

#I won’t have money problems

In a way, we all have a tendency to believe that our life will be better and happier later, when things will have changed…and then we’ll be able to quit complaining.

Ads and marketing campaigns flooding the media actually try to convince us of that. They are everywhere, in public transit, on the side of the road, on the television, the radio…They tell us how wonderful our life will be when…we will buy this amazing new product or will have access to this new service. This brand new car is the key to our happiness, we’ll finally be seen and recognized, this lipstick will boost our self-esteem, this supplement will allow us to feel energized and healthy…

And, in the end, we are constantly creating “conditions” for our happiness and serenity. We are waiting for everything to be perfect, and we end up postponing until tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, to fully enjoy our life. And so on.

“I Quit Complaining” is a challenge that invites you to get out of this spiral that prevents you from fully enjoying every day of your life just the way it is, with its troubles, problems, frustrations…This spiral that pushes you to always want something different and to become an eternally unsatisfied being. Have you ever noticed how we often complain about how it’s too hot outside when two days ago we were complaining about the cold weather?

With this challenge, you can draw from your enormous ability (often ignored) to adapt without having to whine about wanting something different.

Are you ready NOW?

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

Want to you use this article in your newsletter, blog, or on your website? You can, as long as you include the following blurb:

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed  to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE ”I Quit Complaining Starter Kit”  on her blog

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