Yes, I was the complainer and played victim. before I started the 31 Day Quit Complaining challenge… and another thing that motivated me to take over this challenge was how much I was affected by the complainers all around me.
Being surrounded by complainers in my daily life, out in public, at work, at home, takes up a lot of my energy. I am sensitive to their negativity and it usually ruins my day. I might end up feeling their anger, or I sympathize with their complaints, sometimes I even feel guilty and end up asking myself if I did anything to make them complain!
What about you? Are there any complainers in your life? How do you feel when you hear them whine?
For me, this was all a realization. The way I react when surrounded by complainers made me realize the importance of not complaining for my husband, my kids, my friends, professional relations or even my colleagues.
If other people’s complaints affect me that much, I have and had to change.
” Be the change you want to see in the world ” Ghandi
And then things clicked… I remember very vividly the day when things clicked and I decided to finally start the challenge. I had that conversation in bed with myself a few weeks prior, but at that time I didn’t have the courage to dive in. Twenty-one days without complaining is a lot. I made up a bunch of excuses: I don’t have time, it’s not the right time, I don’t want to have one more thing to stress over or even think about.
But despite all of this, one day when we were hanging out with close friends, things just clicked. We were all together eating some good food at my friend Sabine’s house, who was nice enough to have us over.
A nice Sunday meal with all the kids running around, while the parents enjoyed a cup of a coffee after the feast. Then we started talking about people who complain all the time. We all agreed that it was exhausting to be surrounded by complainers. And then I heard myself say: “Oh people who complain all the time are lame, they’re wasting their time…”. At this very moment, it clicked: I realized that I was now complaining about complainers!
It took me this very moment to finally decide to do it, to get out of this downward spiral, of this habit I don’t like. And this is how the “I Quit Complaining” challenge was born. I made a little video and posted it on a brand new blog in French my native language (www.jarretederaler.com) and I posted it on social media…and then the word got around. After a few days, many well-known bloggers started spreading the word out too, and I was invited on a national French radio show. A few weeks later, my blog got press coverage (in the monthly publication Psychologies and the weekly magazine Le Pèlerin). Clearly, I wasn’t the only one interested by the idea! And now, if you are reading this book, you are certainly interested as well!
I decided not to do the challenge in secret, by myself. With the blog, I tried to share the adventure and to get support. The blog worked and allowed me to make a daily summary of things and to exchange ideas with my readers and learn lessons. That being said, at the end of the book you will find exercises and questions to help you make the summary yourself and learn a few lessons along the way too.
THANK YOU, GANDHI
Love & Respect,
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