By embarking on the “I Quit Complaining Challenge”, we are choosing to undergo a reprogramming work. To change our outlook on life and our daily life especially, we have to learn how to think and live things differently, and especially choose what and how we want to communicate with others.
We have to realize and understand that our words have a great impact on our lives and the people that surround us. Our words nourish our beliefs. By complaining all the time, we end up believing what we say : that people are stupid, that life is hard, that nobody is helping us, that our efforts are left unacknowledged or unrewarded, that we are exhausted, that we are burned out … and finally our complaints impact our actions and in the end our very life. Our words, whether we like it or not, are to be taken very seriously because our reality is created by our words and our world is made up of words.
Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny. – Mahatma Gandhi
It is crucial to «reprogram» the way we choose to communicate with life, with the world, with others, with ourselves. By modifying our language and communication reflexes, we will little by little modify our thoughts and feelings, anchored deep down in our belief system for many years.
The challenge I Quit Complaining and Bitching Challenge, allows us to do this work. Even if at the beginning the challenge seems impossible, you will realize that by freeing yourself from this bad habit of complaining, which is real pollution, you will reeducate yourself and your way of thinking. Complaining creates ways of thinking and reacting that our brain uses over and over again and this becomes our dominant reaction excluding any other possible alternative.
Be aware that you may need at least 10 different attempts to start to learn a new response mode. This is the benefit of this challenge which allows you to “practice” , “learn” and “reeducate” your way of thinking to create new connections in your brain.
Progressively, the automatic reflex or habit of complaining will dissipate until it disappears completely. Later, you will not need to spend a lot of energy to avoid complaining, because your mind will have deeply recorded this new way of being and thinking. Your “complaint muscle” will be weakened and your “happiness muscle” will be strong and powerful. What may start off as an impossible challenge, will become like second nature.
* K. Ferlic, Habit of your mind : a releasing your unlimited creativity discussion topic, RYUC, 2008.
Love & Respect,
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