Have you ever noticed how sometimes we can transform a simple frustration into a gigantic tragedy?
Something doesn’t happen as planned:
# Our train is late and we are going to miss an important appointment
# We have to pay more taxes than we thought
# Our employer is reorganizing the company and our responsibilities or schedule have to change
# We already have a million things to do and another task falls on our desk at work.
We constantly have to change our plans, to adapt, to make efforts and to not resist what is happening to us. Our frustration transforms itself in worldwide tragedy. The problem gets so big that we feel threatened.
I remember this happened to me. I had a big day of work ahead of me, multiple phone appointments with my clients. My coaching work happens on the phone 98% and my clients are in the United States, in Canada, Europe, Asia; they can be anywhere in the world. That being said, I use an Internet system to communicate to avoid massive bills. This morning, as I was turning on my computer at 8:40am, I noticed that my Internet connection wasn’t working properly and kept going offline…and my first phone appointment was already 20 minutes late! I started to panic and I heard myself say: “They are going to kill my business if it keeps going this way, if my connection doesn’t work it’ll cost me a fortune.” My words were clearly exaggerated.
This tendency to overreact happens to all of us, sometimes, and too often to some of us. We find ourselves saying things like “ This is killing me”,“They are so damn stupid”, “They can’t do anything right”, “What a bunch of incompetent”, “This is a disaster”.